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Is Getting A Divorce Worth The Costs?
Think about it like this: a marriage is like a corporation, and taking it apart is as complicated as dismantling a business but with the added problem of intense feelings. As important as the emotional appraisal of considering a divorce is, the financial one could be just as important. Is only one partner a wage earner, or does one partner make much more? The financial change might well be devastating.
In most cases, a divorce means maintaining two households and that is almost always much more expensive than a single residence. When children are involved, the choices in housing are more limited and more costly. In these days of high gas prices, commuting between two parents adds even more to the costs. Of course, being shuttled between two parents also puts undue stress on the children.
Many aspects of the high cost of divorce, financially, or emotionally, may not come to the surface until a true assessment is made of many things. Child custody can be a very rocky emotional issue and child support for the parents can be a financial nightmare as well.
Even if you don't have kids, it can be difficult to divide the property and items acquired as a couple. Besides practical reasons for needing a particular item, there are also things that one of you might have sentimental attachments to. You might have to sell your formally shared home to fairly divide it, with not only the high cost of moving but the loss of a place where so many good family memories have occurred.
If money is the reason for the split, seeing a financial counselor would probably be required to settle issues like dividing the debt. In this case, the process might even save the marriage.
If an affair is the cause of the split, you might be able to save the marriage with professional help. The clergy will often help at not expense, but there are also family services that charge on a sliding scale and private marriage counselors. Most importantly find someone who has experience with infidelity. Sometimes inexperienced or amateur counsel from friends and family can do far more harm than good.
Being hurt by an affair is normal for the betrayed party, but after all the same vows that pledge fidelity also speak of sticking together in good times and in the bad ones. Understanding the whys of an affair can help the healing process as can recognizing that the cheater is just a human being who like all of us makes mistakes.
Don't forget that along with all of the other losses and costs of a divorce, there is also the loss of the identity of being a couple. Divorce will change the whole social dynamic with friends and in activities. Even if you both want the divorce, loneliness is common and it is far too easy to impulsively drift into another relationship too soon. Remember the good times and put the current problems in perspective.
You might be able to avoid divorce (and its high emotional and financial costs) if you get help and are dedicated to saving the relationship. Even if you get the divorce anyway, the help from experts will probably help ease some of the pains. Be honest about the costs of divorce to yourself and the decision will become much clearer.
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